tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29570218.post4174616933791507437..comments2023-03-27T07:15:11.222-07:00Comments on Us and Things: Uphill battleUsandthingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14068217339142381332noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29570218.post-44311500347446601962014-03-09T07:41:06.709-07:002014-03-09T07:41:06.709-07:00@Chad- When I said I don't like being a stay-a...@Chad- When I said I don't like being a stay-at-home-mom, you read I don't like being a mom, which isn't true. I severely dislike the "stay-at-home" part. I'm not a homebody and never have been and I'm just coming clean that it is really hard for me and I hate it. I LOVE my children dearly and I think that if you asked them, they would say that their mom loves them and is happy. <br /><br />And, I don't want to be mean, but I was bullied a lot as a kid. I remember crying to mom, asking why my older brothers hated me so much and why they couldn't leave me alone.Usandthingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14068217339142381332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29570218.post-4820252448449811742014-03-07T17:06:07.873-07:002014-03-07T17:06:07.873-07:00Hi Sister,
Wow, this post was harsh. I generally...Hi Sister, <br /><br />Wow, this post was harsh. I generally don't agree with most of what you say, but I do tend to keep my peace. But this post does have me very worried for you and your kids. <br /><br />After first reading, I wonder what your kids would say about you? And I wonder what they would say about this post when they're older - like, in their 20's or 30's? Would they say, "Huh, that's funny, because my mom never acted as though she hated me." Or will they say, "This posting makes complete sense, because it validates the feelings that I had growing up: the feeling that I was never good enough; that I always was bothering my mom; that despite how hard I tried, I never did anything right."<br /> <br />At this point you might be saying to yourself, "Well, I don't treat them this way in real life." Or "I don't say these things to them in real life. I just use this blog to vent." This might be the case, but there's truth in venting; and what you say in venting is a reflection of your real life behaviors. And trust me, kids pick up on this - they're pretty smart. <br /><br />Look, I'm not in charge of your kids - you are. I'm just worried that you're perceptions are distorting the reality of motherhood for you. I.e. the frustrations that you're feeling because you're stuck at home, are distorting your perception of who your kids are, how they're behaving, and what they're capable of. <br /><br />Look, you like to read, maybe you should check out this book: The Power of Validation: Arming Your Child Against Bullying, Peer Pressure, Addiction, Self-Harm, and Out-of-Control Emotions. Because if your blog is anything like your real life, then I worry for you, for your happiness, and for your children; because their perceptions of who they are, are being formed now. And I would hate for them to be left with a lifetime of low self-esteem. <br /><br />-Chad<br />http://www.amazon.com/The-Power-Validation-Out-Control/dp/1608820335<br /><br />PS: Yes, I understand that you're going to be pissed by this comment. Chadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04017247635673307571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29570218.post-39905202526334674062014-03-01T06:38:07.541-07:002014-03-01T06:38:07.541-07:00I feel like parenthood takes the wave form of your...I feel like parenthood takes the wave form of your emotions and changes the amplitude dramatically. Before kids you are humming along, sometimes a little happy, sometimes bummed..but then come children and suddenly the lows are SO much lower (your child is vomiting in the grocery store aisle), but also the highs are purer and better too. There's not nearly as much chance for real joy without kids. At least, I think that might be true.Carrie Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16254460473200019630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29570218.post-29870766302724109782014-02-28T22:13:02.522-07:002014-02-28T22:13:02.522-07:00I quote Hook once a week in my head. And my parent...I quote Hook once a week in my head. And my parents quoted it to me pretty often after the movie came out. Solid parenting all around I'd say.Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13979472112159194337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29570218.post-84700967326892051332014-02-28T10:27:04.540-07:002014-02-28T10:27:04.540-07:001. young kids are hard. older kids are the bomb....1. young kids are hard. older kids are the bomb. they can pee all. by. them. selves.<br />2. i think "and i need at least one of them to take care of me when i am older" should be a number all by itself.<br /> bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00842933912854307182noreply@blogger.com